I received this email from YET ANOTHER person who didn't bother to even read my blog before they tried to get me to pawn their agenda.
In light of the recent news regarding the pending child abuse case against Minnesota Viking Adrian Peterson, the subject of spanking as a form of child discipline has been brought back into public scrutiny.
Here at www.kidsinthehouse.com we have videos with top experts from Harvard and Stanford, including Robert Brooks, PhD and Carol Dweck, PhD discussing how spanking negatively affects children.
Decades of research have shown that spanking is not an effective disciplinary tool and that it actually contributes to multiple negative resulting behaviors in children. Instead, they learn that aggression is a way to solve problems- Is this what we want to teach our children?We would love for you to help raise awareness by featuring some of these videos with top experts discussing the negative consequences of spanking."
I wrote back;
"Hi jack! Thanks for writing.
I don't spank any of my kids for the simple fact that there are more effective ways...meaning other things work better. I've learned that through trial and error you have to outsmart your kids, not overpower them. I like to work smart, not hard.
That being said, of all your experts, which ones are parents? Because I tend to find that experts never have kids. Real parents with real kids know there is no such thing as a parenting expert, nor is there a one size solves all when it comes to raising kids.
I have three kids. They are all very very very different. That means each of them need varying discipline techniques. Multiply that by the number of kids in the world and I can't imagine there is any right way to discipline.
Also, you do know that experts change their "must do" or "must NEVER do" weekly when it comes to the right way to parent right? So if I'm following today's advice on how to be the perfect parent, then tomorrow I'm doing it all wrong and possibly stunting my child's emotional, physical, and social well being for LIFE...all because I followed the experts advice o' the day.
I hate parenting experts Jack. I don't necessary agree or disagree with spanking but I'm not going to share your info with my audience because parenting experts are (in my opinion) the least knowledgeable people when it comes to parenting.
But best of luck to you Jack! I wish you well in your project."
When people start actually reading my blog BEFORE they email me to spread their agenda, I will consider helping them out.